How do you co-parent?
Posted on 4th December 2019
Following our family solicitors in Preston’s recent blog regarding child contact over the Christmas period, our team have recently been made aware of a sad case, in which Jamie Bull, 36, killed himself following his ex-wife’s refusal to allow him contact with their children over Christmas.
Our team would stress that if families can reach an amicable resolution to any child contact issues between themselves, then they should try to do so, as this is generally the best way forward.
In some cases, just talking to the other parent, may help you to realise the best thing for your children, and to ensure their happiness over the festive period.
When dealing with child contact issues, the Court’s primary focus is what’s best for the children involved. Providing that there are no safe-guarding issues with the children, the Court will try their best to ensure that the needs of the children are met, by allowing contact with both parents.
A relatively common comment made by our client’s, or their ex-partners, is that their children are refusing to have contact with the other parent. Generally, if your child is younger, it’s important that you try and work out if they have a real issue with their parent, or whether they’re just being children.
You should then try and deal with any ‘issues’ with the other parent, to ensure that both of you are working together to make sure your child or children feel safe and happy in both parent’s care. Whilst your child’s feelings are important, contact should always be encouraged (unless it’s specifically ordered by the Court that contact should not take place).
How can you help your children deal with divorce or separation?
It’s important to make sure that your children know that they are loved by both parents. Depending on your children’s age, make sure that you’re as honest as possible with them. If they are too young, don’t go into detail about the separation, but try and make them understand what’s happening.
Importantly, even if you don’t like your former partner or spouse, don’t let your opinion cloud that of your child’s. Don’t share any negative feelings that you have about each other with your children.
Lastly, listen to your children, and encourage them to talk about their feeling with you. You can explain to them that they are allowed to be sad, or confused, or even angry.
Whilst our team can’t break the news to your children for you, we can help you with the process of setting your child contact in stone, by way of a court order.
Contact our family solicitors in Lancaster today on 01524 581 306, or email email@example.com.
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